comics, essays, and more from an anxious, androgynous, aromantic, atheist asexual with adhd

Tagged: ace 101

First panel of a cartoon asks the reader to play 'That Ain't Asexual.' The text notes that the following are some words commonly (and incorrectly) associated with asexuality. The first image is of an older man dressed as a Catholic priest. He says, "Celibacy and abstinence are the conscious choices to refrain from sex while still finding it attractive." Asexuality is not a choice. The next image shows a severe looking woman in a Victorian dress who seems to whisper, "A prude is someone easily shocked by sex or nudity." While some Aces are repulsed by sex, others have, and even enjoy, it.

October 23, 2019

That Ain’t Asexual

What is asexuality? Well, I’ll tell you what it’s not.

See Something, Say Something, Do Something
A few years ago, when the world shut down and we all spent time getting more introspective than was strictly healthy, I started saving relatable anecdotes I found online to a Pinterest board. It wasn't long before I noticed the algorithm had picked up a theme. But surely, I argued to myself, it was just a coincidence that I found those tales of ADHD so relatable.
Would You, Could You, Eat a Dragon?
When food is the central love language that binds people together, what place is there for those of us who don’t want to be fed? If “eating is[…]the exclusive privilege of the living,” does that make me simply the walking dead? You can’t be a picky eater in the dungeon. Okay, but – hear me out – what if you are?
Matters of Representation (Because Representation Matters)
It's no small thing to see yourself positively reflected in something someone else has made. It's proof that you're not alone, that you're not broken, or wrong, or any of the other things we tell ourselves when we grow up and don't see a friendly face in society's mirror.