comics, essays, and more from an anxious, androgynous, aromantic, atheist asexual with adhd

Tagged: asexuality

In shades of grey, the artist - a young woman with short hair, wearing a purple t-shirt - stands with one hand on her hip, facing a brunet man in his 30s who has one hand stroking his chin. The title above them says, "Shit People Say to Asexuals." The man says, "You should have your hormone levels checked." The artist replies, "You should show me your license to practice medicine."

November 13, 2024

Sticks, Stones, Etc.

Even licensed medical professionals shouldn’t do this without being asked.

The first panel, in shades of grey with accents of purple and red, shows the artist - a young woman with short hair wearing a purple t-shirt - lounging on a sofa, chatting on her cellphone. The anthropomorphic representation of her virginity - a white rectangle with arms and legs and a large red V on the front sits on the other end of the couch holding a TV remote. The artist is saying to someone on the phone, "Oh, hey. Not much, just hanging out with my V-Card."

October 30, 2024

Origin Story

It occurred to me that newer readers might be wondering why an anthropomorphic rectangle with a large red ‘V’ shows up in so many cartoons.

In shades of grey, the artist - a young woman with short hair, wearing a purple t-shirt - stands with one hand on her hip, facing a middle-aged blonde woman with a bouffant hairdo. The title above them says, "Shit People Say to Asexuals." The woman is wearing a black dress and says, "Honey, you're going to die alone." The artist responds, "Who isn't?"

October 9, 2024

Sticks and Stones, Cont.

Telling people you’re asexual is the gift that keeps on giving.

In the first panel, the artist - a young woman with short hair, wearing a purple t-shirt and holding a microphone - stands in front of a grey curtain. There's a spotlight on her as she says, "Now, I may be sensitive to it - being a card carrier for 38 years and counting - but it seems like there's been an increase in 'virgin jokes' in the media lately."

May 1, 2024

Acceptable Targets

If you want to make jokes about the terrible attitudes of so-called involuntary celibates, be my guest, but the fact that they’re virgins isn’t what makes them despicable humans.

March 20, 2024

The Throw Down

It seems like time for yo-yos to make a comeback.

The artist, a young woman with short hair wearing a purple shirt, sits in the middle between an anthropomorphic representation of her virginity and the ghost of William Faulkner. She has her laptop open in front of her and her fingers steepled in front of her mouth, having just made an amazing discovery. "So if I write 100 stories, I can put an ace character in every single one." The ghost of William Faulkner replies, "That's not how math works," to which the V-Card, a rectangle with arms and legs and a red V down the front, looks up from its book to say, "What do you expect? She majored in creative writing."

March 6, 2024

Matters of Representation (Because Representation Matters)

It’s no small thing to see yourself positively reflected in something someone else has made. It’s proof that you’re not alone, that you’re not broken, or wrong, or any of the other things we tell ourselves when we grow up and don’t see a friendly face in society’s mirror.

In the first panel, the artist, a young woman with short hair wearing a purple t-shirt, holds up a hand and says, "Okay, let me make sure I understand."

February 28, 2024

Time Management

I realized I was probably aromantic when the idea of dating became a chore rather than a goal.

Single panel comic with the title 'Asexual Candy Hearts.' The candy hearts are in shades of purple and grey. Counter-clockwise from the top they have the following messages in cutesy abbreviated text speak: 'No Thanks,' 'Love Does Not Equal Sex,' 'Ace It,' 'No Fucks Given,' and 'Challenge the Conventional Wisdom of How Relationships are Supposed to Work,' which is a quote from ACE by Angela Chen.

February 14, 2024

Start a Conversation

This Valentine’s Day, tell your crush you don’t want to have sex with them with a quote from ACE by Angela Chen.

The first panel shows the artist, a young woman with short hair wearing a purple tshirt and dark grey pants, walking alongside the anthropomorphic representation of her virginity, a rectangle with arms and legs and a large red V down the front. The artist carries a paper bag with a red plus sign on the outside and complains, "It's scary that so many places are trying to restrict access to birth control. God forbid women have hobbies."

January 31, 2024

You’re Welcome

I no longer have to hunt villagers while taking persistent bleed damage, in order to satisfy my hormone-fueled bloodlust. Win-win.

In the first panel, in shades of grey, the artist - a young woman with short hair, wearing a purple t-shirt - stands with one hand on her hip, facing a sneering man in a suit with his arms crossed who doesn't look at her. The title above them says, "Shit People Say to Asexuals." The man in the suit is saying, "You know that's not really a thing, right?" The artist responds, "Well, thank goodness you said something before my complete lack of sexual attraction got out of hand."

June 30, 2023

Sticks & Stones

I don’t usually have the presence of mind to get it right in the moment, so I made this comic.

See Something, Say Something, Do Something
A few years ago, when the world shut down and we all spent time getting more introspective than was strictly healthy, I started saving relatable anecdotes I found online to a Pinterest board. It wasn't long before I noticed the algorithm had picked up a theme. But surely, I argued to myself, it was just a coincidence that I found those tales of ADHD so relatable.
Would You, Could You, Eat a Dragon?
When food is the central love language that binds people together, what place is there for those of us who don’t want to be fed? If “eating is[…]the exclusive privilege of the living,” does that make me simply the walking dead? You can’t be a picky eater in the dungeon. Okay, but – hear me out – what if you are?
Matters of Representation (Because Representation Matters)
It's no small thing to see yourself positively reflected in something someone else has made. It's proof that you're not alone, that you're not broken, or wrong, or any of the other things we tell ourselves when we grow up and don't see a friendly face in society's mirror.